By DeoVonte Means

The first month of 2014, we were beseeched with pop culture scandals surrounding the consensual love of same sex couples. The first story revolved around Kordale and Kaleb and an Instagram pic that showed what appeared to be the couple preparing their young children for school. The second story revolved around Deondray and Quincy Gossfield, a gay couple who tied the knot during Macklemore and Ryan Lewis’s “Same Love” performance featuring Mary Lambert and Madonna at the Grammy Awards.  The Flyy-Life team decided not to give much coverage to either of these stories because in our eyes, in 2014, same-sex couples are as normal as interracial couples. It’s not a major issue. What did in fact spark our attention is the misinformed stereotype of what’s actually “accepted” by society when it comes to faux acceptance of the black gay man.

Many of our heterosexual peers are in fact completely accepting of homosexuality. Some are still homophobic, and then there are those that accept homosexuality as long as it’s two effeminate men, entertaining us on television in women’s clothing, attire, make-up and using the exaggerated nomenclature we have come familiar with in pop culture, known as “gay lingo.”  It appears that some of those that are “accepting” tend to become a bit more uncomfortable when it’s two masculine appearing gay men that honestly have no opinion on fashion, reality shows or trends. Gay men who appear to enjoy sports, mechanics and “a good beer” are in some type of way, castigated by society. And two gay men that decide to raise a healthy family together in a loving and nurturing environment is somehow an abomination.  I’m sure most of the charities that Deondray & Quincy support could care less about their intimacy. And I find it hard to believe that the children in foster homes and orphanages would turn down the loving, nurturing, warm homes of Kordale and Kaleb because of their committed sexuality.

Its 2014 people. It’s time to filter our energy into more beneficial causes that will honestly relieve the suffering of our generation. While we continue to harp on the decisions of two GROWN consensual adults, we ignore the plight of large demographics of people that are forced into a life of poverty because they lack the skill-set or resources to function in everyday society. To help foster an environment of building lasting relationships with polar opposite entities and bringing a global perspective that adds value, to local markets; we here at The Flyy-Life present  gay nigrum Amor masculinus. The Latin for gay black masculine love. Hopefully these images will shed light on the history and diversity represented in the gay community and give credence to those couples whose only wish is to love each and live normal and happy lives together while being an asset to the society at large.